We always face problems to Say ‘NO’. It is always been a matter of great concern to most of the people under the Sun, and things turn more complicated when it comes to saying ‘NO’ to your child.

In this article, we will discuss why we must seldom say NO to our child How to effectively and efficiently do it?

Why We Must Seldom Say ‘NO’ To Our Child?

In any human dealing saying ‘No’ at the right time is equally important as saying ‘Yes’ at the right time. No one can appease everyone all the time, and if someone does then he/she will end up miserable.

Successful people are always comfortable saying ‘NO’ to anyone considering their priorities.

Here I am not advocating selfishness or rudeness. Considering emergencies is acceptable, but making one’s priorities suffer merely to please someone is not a sane decision.

Moreover, children are not matured enough to understand the seriousness of any matter as well as the severity of consequences to be faced by the wrong decisions.

A child may frequently ask for many things, which may include necessities as well as luxuries. Luxuries are those demands which you can avoid for a while or permanently.)

As a parent evaluate the demand and fulfill it immediately if it is a genuine necessity. But if you find it other than a necessity then try to delay it or reject it constructively.

VERY IMPORTANT:

• Do this irrespective of your extraordinary love for your child.
• Blind love and care work as a slow poison for your beloved child and its irreversible consequences will turn things ugly for everyone in the short future.

The reason behind doing this is to tame a child’s mind to accept denial or rejection without getting offended. He/She will learn to hold him/herself when it comes to compromising in practical life and this will be helpful throughout their lifetime.

Gradually your occasional acceptance and denial of demands will send a hidden message to your child about your balanced behavior and consequently, this will control their stubbornness.

Consequently, this will make all your dealings with your child a very pleasant experience.

How To Effectively and Efficiently Say NO to Your Child?

As we discussed earlier, a child’s brain is neither developed nor matured enough and thus with low understanding power it might perceive our good intentions negatively. This may work against us knowingly or unknowingly.

Thus, we need to be very careful while saying ‘NO’ to them.

Part 1

Below are the steps for how to say ‘NO’ to your child constructively and positively without allowing them to enter any negative dome during your conversations.

1. Never say ‘NO’ immediately, even if what their demand is unreasonable.

2. Listen to them carefully without getting prejudice of they being unreasonable.

3. Always wear a welcoming smile while listening irrespective of their unreasonable grounds. This will ensure that they are being heard constructively.

4. Ask why he/she wants to do it. Know their perspective.

5. Generate logical questions and queries out of what he/she says. This will have multiple benefits for your conversation. wiz.

• It will imply that you are taking seriously.
• It will also imply that you are concerned about their issues.
• Your questions or queries will make them think those aspects which they ignored first.

6. Share some real-life experiences of similar kind and make them think about the consequences.

7. Make them present with the flaws/drawbacks and ask them to rethink.

8. Lay all logical reasoning in front of them, helping them to broaden their viewpoint on that particular topic.

9. Make her visualize the imaginary implementation of the matter in concern. Get her through step by step and its consequences as well. Also, make them visualize them wearing the onus of their unreasonable asking.

10 Ask candidly, if they are ready for such negative consequences.

This technique is tried and tested and works with 99% accuracy. They will drop the idea and will be in alignment with your opinion.

But in case,  due to stubbornness, they are not convinced to drop the idea then go ahead and try something as guided below.

Part 2

11. Repeat all the Pros & Cons in front of him/her and show your deep concern about their well-being and take a firm position of not allowing him/her to move ahead with the concerned unreasonable asking.

12. Make them remember past decisions where you accepted their proposal without any concern where all the grounds are reasonable.

13. Ensure him/her that you are ready to review the same and allow him/her to proceed if they will resolve the unreasonable part.

This will leave him/her with no other choice than to drop the idea and get in alignment with your opinion by him/herself.

Generally if tackled with love and compassion; this is the point where their resistance will end and they will be in alignment with you.

But in case, due to extreme stubbornness (which is very rarely found), if still they are not convinced to drop the idea by themselves then go ahead and act as below.

Part 3

14. Announce your final verdict with a BIG ‘NO’, but do not stop yourself here.

15. Quote them past references where all the reasonable demands are accepted and unreasonable were rejected. Also, quote incidents where they were benefited from obeying and vice versa.

This will help you stay firm on your words without you being viewed as an opponent to him/her.

This will also not allow him/her to enter any severe negative dome which may turn harmful to your relationship with your child.

By following the above steps feasibly, you will create a win-win situation with your child and it will ultimately lead you to a Happy Parenting.

God Bless